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How To Cope With Failure

5 ways to cope, and even thrive, when failure comes your way

You are going to fail at some things in life. That is a sure statement, as sure as you are alive and reading this, but how do you cope with failure? 

The question was never if you will fail, it was always when and how

And since you are going to fail at some things, you may as well fail early and get it over with quickly.

Now that you know that the event of failure is inevitable, you need to learn how to go about it so that whatever failure you experience is not the end of you.

And that is why I have written this for you – how do you cope, and even thrive, when failure comes your way?

Five ways to cope with failure

1. Recognize that failure is a part of life

This singular point cannot be emphasized enough. Trying to be alive and avoiding failure at all costs is like trying to be alive and avoiding sleeping at all costs. Sooner or later, you are going to be confronted with it.

So, this is the first step to reducing the impact of failure. Once you know, and accept, that you will surely fail at some things, this knowledge will help you to be better prepared for when it does happen, and it will not seem so strange or sudden to you.

2. See failure as a learning opportunity 

Those who truly succeed in spite of multiple failures are those who see failure as their friends.

Life doesn’t throw failure at you because it is trying to deprive you of success. It throws failure at you to teach you some lessons that you may not learn otherwise.

Failure often comes to show you how not to do things, or to help you discover a better way to do them.

I have learned that when life tries to teach you a lesson but you refuse to learn it, it will keep bringing that lesson your way over and over, in different forms, until you learn it.

Knowing this, every time you fail, a good practice is to ask yourself – ‘what is this event trying to teach me?’. Once you cultivate this type of mindset, you will notice your journey begin to speed up.

3. Know that failure is an event, not who you are

Since failure is an unavoidable part of life, you must by now realize that failing does not mean you are a bad, stupid or useless person. 

It is wrong to refer to a person as a failure because then, we would all be failures, even the greatest men from the pages of history.

But on recognizing that failure is something that happens to you, you become empowered to try again when you fail.

4. Develop a spirit of persistence. Fall seven times, rise eight times.

As has been said over and over, failure is a part of life. So when you fail, you must persist and try again.

The true failure is the man who gives up at the first sign of failure. Those who truly succeed will always try again. And again. And again. Until they are holding success in their hands.

Of course, persistence does not mean you keep doing the same thing over and over while expecting success to just come. That is the definition of insanity.

To truly succeed: when you fail, figure out why you encountered that failure, learn what to do differently and better, then try again.

You must keep trying, as many times as needed, until you succeed. That is the only way to truly succeed in life.

5. Get education

To help you avoid or reduce failure in the future. The more educated you are, the less failure you are likely to encounter.

One of the hallmarks of fools is that they attempt to guess and hope their way to success. A wise person, on the other hand, arms themself with facts and data. With this, they can make better decisions and reduce the number of failures they are going to encounter in life.


I think it bears repeating again – failure is an unavoidable part of life. The only way to ensure you do not fail at anything in life is to not be alive at all. Only dead people never fail.

But if you follow the steps outlined above, you will be empowered to reduce the damages you take on because of the failures that come your way.

Samuel is an avid reader and a freelance writer, in that order. He fancies himself funny, but his friends regularly don't laugh at his jokes. I have been a student of personal development for several years, and I created this blog to share my knowledge with others and help them become better versions of themselves.

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